Integrity: What Do You Do When Nobody’s Looking?

Integrity will keep you from making stupid decisions which you will later regret.

Integrity will keep you from making stupid decisions which you will later regret.

It’s been said that integrity is how you conduct yourself when no one is looking. In other words, part of being an upstanding person is doing right because you know it’s the proper thing to do, and not because somebody is watching you, or you’re afraid of getting caught. An individual who has integrity is a person who can be trusted to behave honorably and not bring shame upon himself or others by engaging in unethical or immoral activities.

Lack of Integrity: The Symptoms

Most people have enough of a conscience to do right if they know that their actions will be scrutinized. But how many will cut corners, how many will cheat if they think they can get away with it? Such people are wholly lacking in integrity. They are not trustworthy, because you are never certain if they are telling you the truth or trying to pull a fast one. People who lack integrity do not like it when the searchlight exposes them. It makes them uncomfortable, and they complain or try to shift the blame away from themselves. Like a stuck pig, they will squeal if you dare to hold them accountable for their misdeeds.

Lack of integrity may manifest itself in any number of ways: lying, making promises that can’t be kept, breaking vows, and being two-faced are among the most common, unfortunately. Cheating is another indication of a lack of integrity, and it is this manifestation I want to focus on here. Someone who cheats is a sneak. He never imagines he will be found out, and when he inevitably does get caught, he always seeks to justify his cheating: he deserves the award, it’s not fair that others have an advantage over him, it’s not his fault he can’t win without cheating, he’s only trying to get what he deems rightfully his, and so on. A cheater thinks his case is special, and hence the rules may be bent or broken to his benefit.

Cheating: The Consequences

But cheating is never justified. No system will ever be completely or perfectly fair, if for no other reason than it is implemented by fallible human beings. Two wrongs never make a right, and cheating, rather than compensating for any unfairness, only perpetuates the inequity: it is not fair to those who do not cheat, who play by the rules. A victory won by cheating is not a true victory; it is a tainted victory, a victory stolen from the honest and bestowed upon the dishonest. It is the epitome of injustice.

That’s what is disturbing about the Jackie Robinson West incident. The adults in charge of the team were wholly lacking in integrity, and their cheating brought shame upon not only themselves, but upon the children on the team, children who had nothing to do with the decision to cheat. The kids may have been innocent, but their victory is not: it is stained with dishonor, thanks to the unethical actions of the adults. The kids were let down by the very people who were supposed to guide them and be their role models.

Nor were the teammates of Jackie Robinson West the only victims of the adults’ lack of integrity—the teams who played fair and square had a legitimate victory stolen from them. The Las Vegas team, Mountain Ridge Little League, should have received the honors and accolades that come with making such a notable achievement. Where is their trip to Disneyland, their visit to the White House? They’ve been denied their fifteen minutes of fame.

Cheating: A Serious Problem

Some people might be tempted to say, “Well, what’s the big deal? It’s just a kids’ baseball game. So what?” Such a response, however, betrays a profound ignorance of the real issues at stake. Maybe baseball in and of itself is not such a big deal in the grand scheme of things. But the rest is.

Integrity is a big deal.

Honesty is a big deal.

Unfairness is a big deal.

Defrauding innocent people is a big deal.

Being an ethical role model is a big deal.

That’s the shame about the Jackie Robinson West cheating scandal. And the adults should have known better.

Investing Your Time Wisely

gold bars

Your time – more precious than gold

Many of us lead busy lives. We feel like there is so much to do, and consequently it’s easy to believe that there just isn’t enough time for us to do all the things we’d like to do, or need to do. The hard reality is that everybody has the same amount of time—24 hours a day. That’s 1,440 minutes, or 86,400 seconds every day. Some use this time to accomplish great things, while others just drift along and at the end of the day, they haven’t achieved anything except marking another X on their calendar. It’s not necessarily a question of being extremely organized (although that could help), nor is it a question of talent (although that doesn’t hurt, either).

Time is a gift – what will you do with it?

It is, however, important to recognize that time is a gift. For better or for worse, yesterday is a done deal, and none of us are guaranteed tomorrow—all we’ve got available is today. Consequently, we must ask ourselves: What will we do with the time we’ve been allotted? Will we fill our time with worthwhile pursuits, or will we fritter it away? Time is a valuable gift. And how we spend it makes all the difference in the world.

Do we sit down from time to time and ask ourselves if we are spending our time wisely? Whether we spend it wisely or not, it is gone forever. There is no recourse for getting back lost time. Are we spending our time on worthwhile or frivolous things? Will we have regrets at the end of the day, wishing we had done something else? When we reach the end of our lives, however long we have on this earth, will we have left this world a better place, or will we look back and say, “I wish I hadn’t spent so much time on ________”?

Of course, this question hinges on what we mean by “worthwhile.” How do you determine what is “worthwhile”? I believe an excellent way to frame the issue is to ask ourselves the following questions:

What is your treasure?

What is your treasure?

What gives my life meaning?

What do you truly treasure? Think of time as an investment—how do you invest your time? That which gives your life meaning is where you will spend your time, and it is by your time investment that other people will be able to determine what your “treasure” is. Outside of customary obligations (work, school, etc.), you will spend more time with your “treasure” than with anything else. For example, given a choice between spending time with your family and spending time at the golf course, what would you choose? Where is your treasure?

Is my focus inward or outward?

Is your time spent on “me, mine” and other selfish pursuits? Or is it spent in serving others, being a blessing to them, influencing them for the better, having a positive impact on them? Are your actions centered around building yourself up, or edifying others? Do you find plenty of time to veg out in front of the TV, but somehow you can’t set aside any time to help someone else? It doesn’t have to a big, sacrificial task—something simple, like a smile or kind word or even a note of encouragement, can brighten another person’s day.

How often do you take time out for personal growth and development?

How often do you take time out for personal growth and development?

Am I taken up by mindless escapism, or do I seek to improve myself?

Do you let your mind and soul feast on intellectual and spiritual junk food, or do you spend your time pursuing enrichment through personal growth and development? Which will make an impression on your life: some forgettable pulp fiction, or timeless literature? At the end of the day, will you really be a better person for having played Candy Crush and Farmville for hours on end?

We only have so much time available to us, no more and no less. Time cannot be saved or hoarded, only spent—the chief question is how: Will we spend it wisely, or squander it? If you want to leave a legacy that will last long after you’re gone, then, seek to make every minute count. Invest your time in that which is worthwhile, and make the most of it.